Invisible Conditions

Trigeminal Neuralgia is an invisible condition.

One of the most difficult aspects of living with Trigeminal Neuralgia is that it cannot be seen by people. "Can someone really be in so much pain, but have no visible signs?”

Many people need evidence, something visible, something tangible, before they can truly believe that someone could possibly be living with such cruel and savage pain. After all, if it were really that bad, doctors would have found a cure by now. Wouldn’t they?

Sadly, it is that bad, and even more sadly, there really isn’t a cure.

When there is no understanding, it affects the patient so much.

They feel like they are not believed. They feel guilty because of their inability to live life as they should. They feel like failures, as they cannot live up to their own or other people’s expectations. They feel that they need to hide their pain from others. They feel more and more isolated with their pain. They become depressed. And it becomes even more difficult to deal with the pain.

This is not just related to Trigeminal Neuralgia.

There are many invisible conditions.

Can we tell if they have an invisible condition?

Can we tell if they are ill?

Can we tell if they are depressed?

Can we tell if they are grieving?

Can we tell if they are being bullied?

Can we tell if they are struggling financially?

Can we tell anything about a person simply by looking at their face?

Of course, we can’t tell any of those things just by looking at someone's face.

But we, as humans, tend to judge too readily.....even those of us who believe ourselves to be non-judgmental. We all do it.

We notice the grumpy looking shop assistant and think they could do with smiling a bit more. We don’t wonder why they are grumpy. We don’t really give a thought to what they may be going through. We possibly don’t even care.

We see a car pulling into the disabled parking space and notice the driver getting out and walking unaided into the supermarket and presume he isn’t disabled at all and shouldn’t be parking there. We don’t give a thought that by the time he has finished his shopping, he possibly will be struggling to walk from the checkout back to his car. We just think he was wrong to park in that disabled space.

We hear so much on television and newspapers about people fraudulently claiming disability benefits, that when our young, healthy looking neighbour hasn’t been working for six months, we presume they are lazy and work-shy. Do we even entertain the thought at all, that this healthy looking young man, may actually be suffering greatly in some way? Depression? Anxiety? Living with invisible pain like Trigeminal Neuralgia?

Perhaps we all need to take another look at those faces.

Perhaps we need to imagine a large question mark on their foreheads to remind ourselves that much of what goes on in life is actually invisible.

Nobody likes to be judged.

Perhaps a little more compassion and empathy could make everyone’s lives a little better. 

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It's A Pain In The Face!

I wake up in the morning, and straight away I feel it and I just think...here we go again, another day with this pain.

From that moment, until I next fall asleep, it’s there.

I am on high doses of meds to try to keep the worst at bay. They help, though some days it doesn’t seem like it. My pain is there every day. Every single day.

Sometimes it’s there in a niggling kind of way. Burning or a bit achy or tingling. There....but I can try to forget. Not completely forget it. I can never do that. But I can live round about it, just being careful about what I eat and drink, careful about what I do so I don’t antagonize it.

But sometimes it’s there in a way I can’t forget it’s there. Feels like a knife is ripping up between my teeth, my teeth being pulled and twisted. My eye hurts....sometimes just aching, or pain in the corner, other times as though there are knitting needles being stabbed in it. My forehead and cheekbone feel so painful as if I have just banged against something. As if there is a huge bruise and I am pressing on it. Sometimes my head feels like it is being squashed. And every now and then, the pains will just surge. Sometimes the pain just suddenly comes out of nowhere, for no reason. 

Sometimes it feels too painful to breathe. Breathe in through my nose, and it's as though the air shoots right up my nose and slices through my head. Breathe in through my mouth, and the air hits my teeth.

I can get pain in my teeth, as though I have just put a live electric cable into my mouth. It’s as though it just sizzles all the way down every tooth to my chin, then along my jaw.  Thankfully, the Tegretol has controlled that type of pain to a degree.

I have no choice, but live with it. I try to make the best of a bad situation, but some days are definitely harder to deal with than others.

Smiling hurts....but I do it. Laughing hurts....but I do it. I try to enjoy doing what I can, rather than cry about what I can’t. So I can’t eat ice-cream or spare ribs, but I’m not going to cry about those things. I know there are things I can eat. And on the really bad days, I just thank my lucky stars that I have a caring husband who makes me something to eat, and says, ‘You need to eat....I know it hurts, but you really need to eat.‘

Every day of my life revolves around my pain. I have other pain too, not just TN. Although there is nothing just about TN.

But what can I do?

Sit and cry all day, or try to make the best of a bad job?

I try to choose the second option.

E.Sirrell

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What is Trigeminal Neuralgia?

People have a habit of screwing up their faces when you tell them you have Trigeminal Neuralgia. “Tri what?” is the usual question.

It’s quite difficult to explain.

Do you try to tell them in medical terms?

That we have two trigeminal nerves, one for each side of the face.The trigeminal nerve is a paired cranial nerve that has three major branches: the ophthalmic nerve, the maxillary nerve, and the mandibular nerve.

One, two, or all three branches of the nerve may be affected. It can affect one side of your face, and occasionally both sides.

The pain may be felt in the ear, eye, lips, nose, scalp, forehead, cheeks, teeth, or jaw and side of the face.

It can sometimes be caused  by a compression on the nerve, possibly by a blood vessel or artery. Sometimes, there is no known cause.

Then do you add this bit?

Trigeminal Neuralgia is one of the most painful conditions known to mankind and is sometimes referred to as the Suicide Disease.

Or do you try to give a more easy to understand explanation?

It is so important to try to make people understand this pain. Medical explanations might not be understood by everybody. And calling it the suicide disease isn't describing the pain at all. We need understanding, but in order to get that, we need to describe the pain well.

TN Info

As we all know, Trigeminal Neuralgia is fairly rare. So why was I utterly shocked the other day while searching for something online?

I came across a health website offering tips and advice about Trigeminal Neuralgia. The first line was, “Trigeminal Neuralgia is a common problem.” I continued to read and found many more inaccuracies such as TN affects just the right side of the face, affecting the eye and lower jaw and only happens while resting.

I actually couldn’t believe what I was reading, but what shocked me more was that the article was supposedly written by a doctor!

I read it, and several other TN sufferers read it and we all agreed just how wrong it was, but what if someone new to TN reads it? What if someone’s relative reads it wanting to find out more, so they could offer more support?

This was a health website, with articles written by doctors. People would expect they could trust the information to be correct. I emailed the website, a detailed email, about the inaccuracies, hoping for a positive response. I explained that TN needs awareness, but it does not need bad information online. I hoped they would take the article off, and correct it before putting it back up. Emmm.....no. I got a reply asking me to just leave a comment as it could help other sufferers.

Well, I did leave a comment, as did several other TN sufferers. I suggested that anyone reading the article should go elsewhere for information as that was not a reliable source. I hate to think how many other articles were completely off. That is one website I shall avoid in future.

Thankfully, not all websites are like that one. Some are very helpful. Most countries probably have their own Trigeminal Neuralgia Association. Obviously, we can’t list them all, but here are links to a few.

TNA UK 
Facial Pain Association, USA
TNA Australia
TNA Canada

If your country has a TNA, and we haven't listed it, please let us know and we will do so.

There is also a very good book about TN called “Striking Back” by George Weigel and Kenneth F. Casey, MD. This is an excellent reference for both sufferers and carers with detailed advice on medication and treatments. It can be purchased from most of the TN Associations or from online bookstores.  

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We, at End TN do not profess to know everything about Trigeminal Neuralgia. We are not doctors....we are simply TN sufferers trying to promote awareness.  We can sometimes offer suggestions and we can certainly give support. But for medical advice, we would always suggest to people to speak to their doctor, neurologist or neuro-surgeon. Even the pharmacist sometimes can help if the problem is relating to meds.

Technology has progressed so much over the years, so that we have information at our fingertips. However, as proved this week, it is not always the best information.

It's All About Awareness!

So here we are - our very first post on our End TN blog. If you have just come across us after searching online about Trigeminal Neuralgia, then we are sorry to meet under these circumstances, but we hope you will find something here to help you. If not help, hopefully we can give you support and hope for a better future. If you already follow our End TN page on Facebook, we hope you will stick with us and follow our blog too. If you haven't seen our Facebook page, it's here.

If you look at the right hand side of this page, you will see some links which will take you directly to our Facebook, Twitter and You Tube pages. There is also a page called "who we are" to let you know a little about us and what are doing at End TN.

When we say End TN, we actually do mean we would like to see an END to Trigeminal Neuralgia, Atypical Trigeminal Neuralgia, Trigeminal Facial Pain, Neuropathic Facial Pain, or any other type of Facial Pain. (Sometimes doctors don’t actually know what to call it). All bit of a mouthful, so we’ll just refer to everything as TN or Trigeminal Neuralgia.

The pain can come in several ways....like a bolt of lightning, like an electric shock or it can be grinding, drilling, aching or burning to name just a few descriptions. It can be a one off shock or it can be a constant ache. The pain is sometimes referred to as the suicide disease due to the severity. Everybody’s pain is different and everybody’s reaction to meds, treatments or surgery is different.

But no matter what it is called and no matter how painful it is, there is one fact about TN which everyone hates.

It is totally invisible.

Nobody can see it.

Nobody can see what a horribly painful condition Trigeminal Neuralgia is. To suffer pain like this, you would think at least something should show.

Trigeminal Neuralgia is just one of many Invisible Diseases. But even though it can't be seen, it doesn’t have to be silent.

We need to talk about TN, write about it. Write to magazines, television shows, radio, newspapers. We need to all do we can to help people learn and understand Trigeminal Neuralgia. We need awareness. Awareness amongst non-sufferers and awareness amongst the medical profession.


There are other campaigns on the go just now too, so together, we should hopefully be heard. We need to make sure we are heard!

One of the other groups campaigning has a petition asking the World Health Organization to take action on Trigeminal Neuralgia.  Please sign the petition. Whether you have TN or you know someone with TN, it is important for WHO to realise that so many people want something done about the condition. You can find out more here. They have also organized an international TN awareness day for Oct 7th, organised teal coloured ribbons, and are trying to raise money for the Facial Pain Research Foundation.


So.....as the picture says, “Together we can make that voice louder”

And if we do, hopefully, one day, we might actually see an end to Trigeminal Neuralgia.